Resources for Pregnancy & Infant Loss
- Official PUSH Blog
- Nov 22, 2024
- 4 min read
Updated: Dec 5, 2024
We are so, so sorry you're here.
If you're reading this, chances are a baby you love has died. And we know from experience that there is absolutely nothing worse. We are so very sorry.
We want you to know that you are not alone. And as impossible as it seems, you will survive this. We didn't believe it, either. But we made it. You will too. And just like our babies, the baby you are missing will always be a part of your family.
And we'll be there for you, too, every step of the way.
The resources below were compiled by bereaved parents and families of stillborn babies from our team at PUSH. These are the things that brought us comfort in our time of greatest need. Everyone grieves differently, and that's okay. But we all deserve support. We hope you find what's right for you.
Please do not hesitate to contact us if you need anything at all. Hang in there.
--Lots of love from all of us at PUSH
PS - If you are dealing with a recent or impending stillbirth, TFMR, or other loss, check out our Guide to Lactation After Loss to understand what to expect when your milk comes in and the options available to you to manage it.
Peer Support & Online Communities
24/7 National Maternal Mental Health Hotline (1-833-TLC-MAMA)
Chasing the Rainbows (peer mentoring and daily virtual support groups, including PAL)
Experience Camps for Grieving Children
Griffin Cares Foundation (peer mentoring and virtual support groups)
Loss to Love App (virtual support groups and 1:1 counseling)
Pockets of Light (virtual support groups)
Pregnancy After Loss Support (virtual support groups and free PAL app)
PSI Postpartum Support Int'l (peer mentoring and virtual support groups)
Rainbow Clinic PAL Peer Discussion Group
Remembering U, Remembering Us (virtual support group)
Return to Zero: HOPE (virtual support groups and directory of local support groups and individual counselors)
Shades of Blue Project (virtual support groups)
TFMR Mamas (virtual support groups)
The Luxor Collective Support Group for Men (virtual support group)
Grief Books for Adults
An Exact Replica of a Figment of My Imagination: A Memoir by Elizabeth McCracken
Different Baby, Different Story: Pregnancy and Parenting After Loss by Joann O'Leary
Empty Cradle, Broken Heart: Surviving the Death of Your Baby by Deborah L. Davis
It's OK That You're Not OK: Grief in a Culture That Doesn't Understand by Megan Devine
Rosalie Lightning: A Graphic Memoir by Tom Hart
Pregnancy After Loss Support: Love Letters to Moms Pregnant After Loss by Emily Long and Lindsey Henke
Still His Mama by Terrell Hatzillas
Three Minus One: Stories of Parents' Love and Loss by Sean Hanish
Unimaginable: Life After Baby Loss by Brooke Taylor
When Skies Are Gray: A Grieving Mother's Lullaby by Lindsey Henke
You Are the Mother of All Mothers: A Message of Hope for the Grieving Heart by Angela Miller
Check out @BabylossLibraryProject for many, many more recommendations!
Children's Books
An Elephant Never Forgets by Miranda Hernandez
Dear Star Baby by Malcolm Newsome
Forever Connected by Jessica Correnti
I Am STILL a Big Brother by Bella Mody
I'm Still a Big Sister by Brittany & Eliza Day
Our Baby Is Going to Die TFMR Book Series by Katrina Villegas
Perfectly Imperfect Family by Amie Lands
Some Babies by Holly Ann Abel
Someone Came Before You by Pat Schwiebert
The ABCs of Grief by Jessica Correnti
These Precious Little People by Frankie Brunker
We were gonna have a baby, but we had an angel instead by Pat Schwiebert
Check out @BabylossLibraryProject for many, many more recommendations!
Finding Answers & Practical Advice
Films
The Deafening Silence (2013 - Short Film)
Don't Talk About the Baby (2018)
Also don't miss the Peabody Award Winning Aftershock (2022) documentary about the Black Maternal Health crisis!
Financial Support
Note: Many funeral homes will over burial or cremation services at a significantly reduced price for families suffering a perinatal loss. Ask a friend to call around to local funeral homes, or try a tool like Funeralocity to compare prices.
Keepsakes (Memorial Items, Art & Photography Services)
#StillCounts Personalized Gear (Custom Shirts, Mugs, Etc.)
Aaliyah in Action (Self Care Packages)
Artful Ashes (Cremation Art Glass)
A Bit of Whimsy (Custom Pencil Drawings)
Bodily (Support/Care Package)
CentimeGift (Baby Name Ring)
Close By Me (Cremation Jewelry)
Comfort Company (Remembrance Jewelry/Gear)
Earth Mama Organics (Support/Care Package)
Emily McDowell Empathy Cards (Greeting Cards)
Eve Amara (Remembrance Shirts/Gear)
Hollyday Designs (Breastmilk Jewelry)
Hope Again Collective (Remembrance Jewelry)
I Love You Still (Memorial Baby Book)
In Memory of You (Memorial Baby Book)
Kwohtations (Greeting Cards)
Little Sycamore (Birthstone Remembrance Jewelry)
Loss Lovey (Remembrance Keepsake)
Lotty Lollipop (Remembrance Keepsake)
Lyon's Legacy (Custom Memorial Artwork)
Made Known Loved (Custom Memorial Artwork & Ornaments)
Molly Bears (Weighted Teddy Bears)
Momma Bear (Weighted Teddy Bears)
Mother of Wilde (Custom Memorial Artwork)
Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep (Heirloom Portraits & Photo Retouching)
Portraits by Dana (Custom Pencil Drawings)
Ready for a Rainbow PAL Affirmation Cards
Spoonful of Comfort (Support/Care Package)
The Angel Pics Project (Photo Retouching)
The Midnight Orange (Remembrance Sculptures)
The Noble Paperie (Greeting Cards)
The Remember Shop (Remembrance Orbs)
Ultrasound Embroidery (Custom Ultrasound Embroidery)
